The Art Of Romance With Lingerie

If you have been happily married for several years, then you may feel that your romance has not been satisfying. You may feel that you would like more romance in your lives as it was when you first met.


Often times, if you have been married for a while, then you may feel that you know your spouse wants more romance and that he may have no idea where to begin. Romance means clearly communicating your expectations. Romance is deeply personal, so if your partner is not Romeo, then you will have to tell him what romance means to you. There is no romance gene in your darling's DNA to help him figure out what makes you feel loved, and as a result he may feel that the biggest romantic regret was never telling his spouse how much the little things meant to him.

After being married for a while, you may like him to send you flowers more often. However, what you may not understand is that it is up to you to tell him. Romance is not supposed to be a secret, and although everybody craves tenderness, soft caresses, and pampering, you must tell your beloved what you need, whether it is a bunch of handpicked wildflowers, or a dozen red roses delivered to you. Perhaps, it is a home-cooked meal in front of the fireplace, or an upscale restaurant with expensive champagne sound more romantic.


When you are in a romantic mood, nothing is more natural than the desire to communicate those feelings. In fact, the word romance translates comes from a Latin action verb meaning 'to write'. Thousands of years of great works of art, literature, and music have been inspired by this yearning to express inner romantic feelings.


There are endless ways to communicate your feelings, such as writing cute love notes, passionate sonnets, and silly little love songs. Besides writing, you can also use a tender touch, a shared joke, or their favorite meal to communicate romantic thoughts to your sweetie.

You can heighten romance by creating anticipation with a hint of mystery, by asking your loved one to set aside the evening for a romantic surprise. Doing this will help you to establish and preserve your time. The anticipation of what you are planning will drive him wild, and you will know that he will be home on time.


When setting the stage for romance in your home, use soft colors, soft lighting, soft fabrics, and soft music, because softness in your home will, in turn, encourage soft whispers, soft caresses, and soft glances. The soft glow of candlelight or flickering firelight turns an ordinary room into a romantic retreat as you treat your sense of touch with thick rugs, fluffy comforters on the bed, and silky lingerie in soft colors.


Soft scents can be powerful aphrodisiacs, and rose and jasmine encourage romance for women, while men especially like the scent of vanilla, which is the spice of Venus, the goddess of love. Use natural fragrances and essential oils sparingly so you do not overwhelm your partner. Splurge on a single red tulip, symbolizing a declaration of your love, instead of a bouquet. If you work with computers, then you can merge photos of the two of you into a heart, record your own love song, or email a poem.

Tuck a packet of seeds into your Valentine's Day card to symbolize love growing or cook dinner together and slow dance in the kitchen. Create a theme evening by recreating a wonderful romantic interlude that you shared together and add to the experience some special lingerie that will help spark up the romance once again.